Me: So, how was school today?
M and P: (Silence.)
Me: What was your favorite part of the day? Share a "good" with me.
M and P: (Nothing but shrugs.)
Me (trying again to start a conversation): Oh, I received an email from your teacher today. She sent a letter to all the parents about some new rules.
I grabbed my phone to pull up the email and shared the first new rule.
Me: Do you keep your hands and feet to yourself?
M: Yes, we always follow the rules.
Me: Oh, what about talking when the teacher is talking? Do you talk when the teacher is talking, P?
P: No, but ...
Me: Do you know someone who does talk when the teacher is talking?
P: Well ... Adrian says he want to marry me.
P: But I told him he has to kiss me first.
Me: Oh! No! No ... no ... no ...
P: (Walks away with her head down in tears ...)
Me: No, honey. Let's talk about this. I'm sorry ... er, uh, I was just so surprised, but I'm so proud of you for sharing it with me.
M (Her sister chiming in.): P! She just wants to have a conversation with you!
Me: (Laughing at M and then changing the subject so that P could over hear.)
P: (Walked back into the kitchen with a blanket over her head ...)
Me: Come here. Take the blanket off your head, silly. (I grabbed her and hugged her close to me. Close enough to whisper in her ear.)
I explained to her that I understand her thinking about weddings and kissing. We had a great conversation about it not happening in kindergarten. And not for a long, long time. We talked about how they could both get into trouble. We talked about her feelings. We talked about how proud I was that she shared her story with me.
Oh, the innocence of a sweet kindergartener.
M: Mom, I told Adrian today that he can't say he wants to marry P anymore. If he does, then I told him that I was going to tell you.
Me: Oh, really? What did he say?